With divorce rates at 43% (as opposed to the 50% myth), lots of women have an ex husband. In many cases women can be bitter towards their ex husband, while some still love him. Lots of factors can lead to ex husbands, although cheating and abuse are two common reasons. Sometimes, however, women have an ex husband simply because the marriages lose their love. As sad as it is, these things happen. Having worked with many women with an ex husband, here are my tips for getting over an ex husband.
First, I will address women who still love their ex husband. If you are this type of woman, ask yourself why you have an ex husband in the first place. If he didn’t leave you, then why did you leave him? If you left, then your life with your ex husband must not have been great. If your ex husband was abusive or unfaithful, what makes you think he would ever change? If you get sentimental for your ex husbands, just recall why you left him in the first place! You’ll probably lose that sentimentality pretty quickly.
If you are a woman who hates your ex husband, you need some help too. Does your ex husband constantly dominate your thoughts? Do you dwell on how much you hate your ex husband all the time? If so, then it’s now time to let go of your ex husband. I guarantee your ex husband isn’t hurting from your obsession, only you. Don’t give your ex husband any more power! He probably has enough of that in your life without you thinking of him and obsessing over him all of the time.
If you have children with an ex husband then my advice to let go is tough. You may need to have your ex husband in your life for the sake of the kids. If this is the case, then always treat your ex husband with dignity, even if he is not nice to you. Your kids will see the truth about your ex husbands in time. Don’t make them find out that you are petty or insecure. Your children may pick your ex husband over you simply because they feel sorry for him or see him as the good guy.
Hopefully you have a good ex husband, but if not, try my tips for dealing with an ex husband. In time you will be able to move on to someone else. However, pick the right person and don’t rush into marriage so you’re not dealing with a new ex husband!
A lot of women end up with ex husbands because they pick bad men. To avoid the ex husband problem, my best advice is to go into relationships thinking logically. Don’t fall prey to emotionalism and not properly check out how the men in your life really behave. This will stop one from becoming an ex husband.
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