Lots of factors can lead to ex wives, including either party cheating or the marriage simply dying. Having worked with many men who have an ex wife, here’s my advice for getting over an ex wife and moving on. Because I know one thing: it isn’t easy!

First, I will address men who are still in love with their ex wives. If you are this type of man, ask yourself why you have an ex wife to begin with. If she didn’t leave you, then why did you leave her? If you left, then your life with your ex wife must not have been too ideal. Why do you think she would change after time spent apart? If you get sentimental for your ex wife, just remember why you left your ex wife to begin with!

If you are a man who hates your ex wife, you need some help too. Sure your ex wife may be a bitch. In fact, a lot of women are nasty to men, especially when they realize that the courts favor women, even manipulative, troubled ones. But, does your ex wife dominate your thoughts? Do you dwell on how much you hate your ex wife? If so, then now’s the time to let go of your ex wife, bro. Even if she’s getting some of your money, don’t give her any more power. Don’t give your ex wife your dignity too.

If you have children with an ex wife, then my advice to let go is probably not easy. You may need to have your ex wife in your life, even if for the sake of the kids. If this is your situation, then treat your ex wife with dignity, even if she’s not nice to you. Your kids will see the truth about your ex wife when they get older. Don’t make them find out that you are petty or insecure and not a good example. Trust me, when they get older, they will see her for how she really is. Don’t let them grow up and find out that you are the idiot.

Hopefully you have a good ex wife who you’re friends with. But if you’re not, my tips for dealing with an ex wife should help. In time you’ll be able to move on to someone else. However, pick the right person and don’t rush into a marriage. Otherwise you’ll just be dealing with an ex wife all over again, buddy.

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First, I will address women who still love their ex husband. If you are this type of woman, ask yourself why you have an ex husband in the first place. If he didn’t leave you, then why did you leave him? If you left, then your life with your ex husband must not have been great. If your ex husband was abusive or unfaithful, what makes you think he would ever change? If you get sentimental for your ex husbands, just recall why you left him in the first place! You’ll probably lose that sentimentality pretty quickly.

If you are a woman who hates your ex husband, you need some help too. Does your ex husband constantly dominate your thoughts? Do you dwell on how much you hate your ex husband all the time? If so, then it’s now time to let go of your ex husband. I guarantee your ex husband isn’t hurting from your obsession, only you. Don’t give your ex husband any more power! He probably has enough of that in your life without you thinking of him and obsessing over him all of the time.

If you have children with an ex husband then my advice to let go is tough. You may need to have your ex husband in your life for the sake of the kids. If this is the case, then always treat your ex husband with dignity, even if he is not nice to you. Your kids will see the truth about your ex husbands in time. Don’t make them find out that you are petty or insecure. Your children may pick your ex husband over you simply because they feel sorry for him or see him as the good guy.

Hopefully you have a good ex husband, but if not, try my tips for dealing with an ex husband. In time you will be able to move on to someone else. However, pick the right person and don’t rush into marriage so you’re not dealing with a new ex husband!

A lot of women end up with ex husbands because they pick bad men.  To avoid the ex husband problem, my best advice is to go into relationships thinking logically. Don’t fall prey to emotionalism and not properly check out how the men in your life really behave. This will stop one from becoming an ex husband.

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The first sex beast is the werewolf. The werewolf is a human who morphs into a beast. However, in most literature, the woman is interested not in the human side, but in the beast. One can find werewolf sex beasts in art and literature of the past and the present day. Even in the movie “Teen Wolf,” the main character becomes a sex beast (literally and figuratively) only when he turns into a werewolf.

Another type of sex beast is the vampire. While not truly a beast, the vampire is not a typical human either. While vampires are often shown being more human at times, it is in their vampire state where they are attractive to women, and thus, become a sex beast. The Twilight movies portray vampires as sex beasts. The same is true in the 80s movie “Lost Boys” where the shy Michael becomes a sex beast only when turning into a vampire.

While there are other examples of a sex beast in literature, movies, and art, the existence of the sex beast himself is fascinating. The sex beast, even when he has a human side, is attractive to women only when in the sex beast form. In fact, the human part of the sex beast is usually portrayed as a very average, often bumbling and shy man.

The portrayal of the sex beasts gives an important truth about men. Women do not like the average, wimpy beta male (the nice guy), but prefer someone unique, edgy, and even a little mean. The sex beast then becomes an image for the rebel, the fighter, or most importantly, the one who is interesting by virtue of his power. Thus, the sex beast in literature is akin to the alpha male of the modern world.

In order to be a sex beast with women, you simply have to project your value to them. Looks are important, but in the end it comes down to power. Are you confident, powerful, and worth (there’s the value word) knowing intimately?

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Step daughters and their parents must first recognize that life involves both give and take. A step daughter can’t expect to get her way whenever she wants it. The parents of a stepdaughter must also be sensitive to the needs of their step daughter and compromise. Sometimes the step daughter can be spoiled. That behavior must end quickly. Otherwise the stepdaughter can bring strife to the family.

Second, the stepdaughter and her mom and dad must answer discipline questions. A step daughter will typically try to turn her natural parent against the new step parent to get what she wants. A stepdaughter must never be allowed to do this consistently since it will create chaos. The natural parent may want to handle all discipline or possibly delegate some duties to the step parent. This is fine, but the natural parent must support the decisions of the step-parent or it will confuse and embolden the stepdaughter.

Third, if a new baby enters the family, the stepdaughter may have to address jealous feelings and sulking. I advise trying to get the step daughter to bond with the child and even take on a few responsibilities so the step daughter can be emotionally connected to the child. Don’t go too far, though, by forcing the step daughter to babysit. She could resent the new child which is bad.

Finally, the step daughter and her parents must learn to love as a family. Love will never be equal (a step daughter may keep score), but you should always give the step daughter the same love and affection you show the non step daughter. The step daughter should then show respect to the step-parent.

As you can see, it’s not hard to make a blended family with a step daughter work. It just takes a little effort on the part of parents and the step daughter.

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The stepson doesn’t have it easy. A step son has to put up with divorce, a new marriage, a new family with new siblings, and maybe relocation. In most cases the stepson has to deal with these problems as a child. And if a new, biological son of the couple is born, the step son must handle even more difficult feelings like jealousy. I’ve developed a few techniques to help parents and their stepson.

If you’re a stepson yourself or the parent of a step son, you have to accept one important truth. Life is about both giving and taking. A stepson must never get his way all the time and the parent must always be willing to compromise when it’s appropriate. If the parent was a single mother and spoiled the stepson, both parties must break that expectation for the new blended, family to work. The parents and step son should come to an agreement that benefits every family member, not just one single person.

Second, the stepson and his parents have to be consistent on giving and receiving discipline. A step son may try to turn his natural parent against the new step-parent. This behavior can poison the new family’s life if not stopped immediately. The natural parent may want to handle all discipline issues or give some to the step parent. However, the natural parent must back up the step-parent fully. The step son needs then listen to the step parent and not argue.

Third, if a new child is born, the stepson could deal with jealous feelings which may lead to angry outbursts. Try to get the stepson to bond with the new baby and even give him responsibilities so that he feels connected to the new child. But, don’t ever force the step son to be your babysitter or he may resent the new child and feel hostility towards the parents too.

Finally, the stepson and his parents must make sure the family is loving. While love can never be equal (a step son may develop a keeping score mentality), always make an effort to show the step son the same love and interest you give the non step son. The stepson should give love and respect to his step-parent too.

Thus, a stepson and parents of the step son can definitely make a healthy and happy blended family. It’s never going to be perfect, for sure, but with these techniques, the stepson and his family members can avoid the problems that plague so many blended families.

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I have a favorite nephew who goes by Buzz. His real name is Chase. I’m lucky to have a loving and considerate nephew since some people don’t even have a nephew. I tried hard to be a good uncle to my nephew and wanted to share my tips about how to have a positive relationship with your nephews. These tips and advice are especially valuable if your nephew had a traumatic childhood or was missing a father.

First, you’ll probably have to initiate contact with your nephews. A nephew, especially a preteen or teenager may not reach out to an adult because he doesn’t think it’s cool. You need to pick something fun to do with your nephew, like going to a sports game or a concert. If your nephew doesn’t trust adults, especially if he has no father in his life, don’t expect him to warm up immediately. Be patient and let your nephew move at his own pace. Don’t try to push him to talk or he may withdraw.

Second, once your nephew trusts you and likes you, you must be an active listener. A nephew, like most teens, probably has a natural distrust of his parents, believing that they judge him or don’t like him. Don’t interrupt him, yell at him, or condemn your nephew because then you turn into just another adult. Let your nephew share his thoughts and then repeat what he says back to him so he knows you’re listening. Don’t give advice to your nephews yet.

Finally, once you’ve built trust, you can share your wisdom with your nephew. Be nice and generous , but don’t become so familiar that you can’t be the adult if your nephew needs you. For example, if your nephew threatens to kill himself, you must call for help, even if your nephew dislikes you for awhile.

Thus, you can grow closer to your nephew and be a good influence in his life, especially if you are a male role model. It isn’t difficult to have a good relationship with your nephews. A good friendship with your nephew just takes a little of your time, a lot of patience, and good sense in knowing when to keep your mouth closed.

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I have a favorite niece named Elizabeth. OK, she’s also my only my niece. However, I consider myself fortunate to have her since not everyone is blessed with nieces. I worked hard to be a good uncle to my niece and thought I would share a few tips about how to have a special relationship with your nieces. These are especially helpful if your niece has had trauma in her life and needs a stable adult presence.

First, you may need to reach out to your niece. A niece, especially a preteen or teenager, may be reluctant to reach out to an adult, even a relative. Once you contact her, your niece would probably prefer to do something fun, like go to a movie or out for dinner. If your nieces don’t trust adults, don’t expect them to open up immediately. Be patient and let your niece share with you. Don’t pry or your niece may not want to be around you.

Second, once your niece trusts you, you should be an active listener. A niece, like most young people, probably has a natural distrust of her parents, feeling that they judge her. Don’t interrupt, yell, or condemn your niece because then you’re just another adult in her mind. Let your nieces say their thoughts and then, you can repeat what they say. Don’t try to give advice to your niece yet.

Finally, you can start to build trust and share your wisdom with your nieces. You will want to be nice to them, but not become too chummy so that you can’t act as an adult with your niece if you need to. For example, if your niece threatens suicide, you need to call the authorities, even if it makes you unpopular with your niece.

Thus, you can get close to your niece and be a good influence in her life. It isn’t hard to have a good relationship with your niece. A good friendship with your niece takes time, patience, and knowing when to keep your mouth shut.

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In this age of distant families, having an uncle is becoming less common. The extended family that used to dominate the entire world has given way, at least in the United States and Europe, to the nuclear family. While not a problem, this means that many children have very little contact with aunts, uncles, and other relatives.

This is sad since many kids throughout history have made great memories of a favorite uncle or aunt. An uncle can give another perspective to children than their parents. Also, the uncle can earn a child’s trust in a way that parents cannot. Thus, many people have childhood memories of cool uncles who taught them lessons about life.

Growing up, my favorite uncle was Uncle Terry. I always liked the way Uncle Terry ran his business. My Uncle Terry taught me the value of money and how to make it honestly and with integrity. My parents didn’t run a business, so they couldn’t speak to that topic like my uncle. I also had an Uncle Bert who told me about the birds and the bees when my mom and dad would not, at least not in honest terms!

The role of the kind uncle is found in the media. In the Wizard of Oz, Uncle Henry acts as a father figure for Dorothy and treats her with love and kindness. However, the evil uncle can be found in the media too. This uncle image is seen in the Who’s Tommy where the wicked Uncle Ernie abuses poor Tommy. Sadly, some nieces and nephews know this kind of uncle in real life, not just through famous examples.

I hope that every kid would have the pleasure of knowing a favorite uncle and want to make sure that my sons see their uncle regularly to learn from him. I hope my children will reminisce with fondness on their favorite uncle the way I look back fondly on Uncle Bert and Uncle Terry. Sadly, with so many families separated by distance or economics many little ones will never know loving uncles. Why not get a gift for uncle today as a sign of your love and appreciation? Maybe you could even write an uncle poem.

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In this age of smaller families, having an aunt or more than one aunt is increasingly less common. In the past, aunts and uncles and other relatives were an important part of the extended family, all of whom played a big role in raising children. However, this model of the family with many aunts and uncles has given way to the nuclear model of mom, dad, and the children.

This is unfortunate since many of us have great memories of a favorite aunt and uncle. Oftentimes, an aunt can provide a different perspective to children than their parents. The aunt can gain a child’s trust in a way that a father or mother cannot. Thus, many people have childhood memories of cool aunts who taught them about life or was there for them when their father or mother were not available, either literally or emotionally.

Growing up, my favorite aunt was Aunt Kathy. I always liked the way Aunt Kathy made prepared her food and would judge them better tasting than the cooking of my mom and dad. I also had an Aunt Carolyn who would let me eat cookies when my parents said no. An aunt has the advantage of having fun with her nieces and nephews and then can pawn them off on the parents when they get rowdy!

The role of the kindly aunt is found in the media as well. In the Andy Griffith Show, Aunt Bee became a beloved figure. Many children then and now wished they had such a perfect, nurturing aunt in their lives. Other examples of a famous aunt is found in the wizard of Oz where Aunt or “auntie” Em acts as Dorothy’s mother figure and treats her with great love and kindness.

I wish that every child would have the joy of knowing favorite aunts and I make sure that my daughters see their aunt regularly to learn from her wisdom. I hope my little ones can look back with fondness on their favorite aunt the way I look back fondly on my love for aunts Kathy and Carolyn. Sadly, with so many families broken apart by distance or other factors many kids will never know a loving aunt.

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First, sister has a religious connotation, especially in the Christian Faith. For Catholics, a sister is a religious who takes a vow of poverty, chastity, and obedience. The woman is called a sister and is usually addressed as sister followed by her first name.

Sometimes sister is used in the evangelical churches to describe a female with whom one shares the same Christian faith. Thus, sisters refers to the relationship of female believers with each one having God as their father. At revival and church meetings it’s common to hear believers refer to other females as “sister” so-and-so.

Sister also speaks of our connection to each other as human beings. We call our fellow female humans sisters to show that we are united, brother and sister, in the human race. Sister is used by idealists who want everyone to get along. So, calling each other sister describes our interconnectedness. Sometimes this use of sister is associated with hippies or liberals.

Sister is also a slang term used in the African American culture. Blacks will call females of that race their sister to emphasize the solidarity they share as blacks, especially black women. The term sister was more widely used in the 70s and 80s, but sister is often used today in this context too. For example, Sister Souljah was a rap artist of the 90s and is still active today.

Another sister is important too: a good friend who is like a sister. This friend is sometimes called a sister from another mother, which implies that the friend is so close that she could be a literal blood sister. We can all find information and facts that point to friends and classmates that we view like sisters and brothers.

Throughout history there have been many famous sisters. There aren’t as many well-known sisters in the past because ancient writers were more concerned with males. However, the Grimke sisters were famous in abolishing slavery and the Bronte sisters were great authors. Today, Venus and Serena Williams are famous athlete sisters. Jackie and Joan Collins and Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen are famous actress sisters.

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First, brother has a religious usage, especially in Christianity. In the Catholic Church a brother is a religious who has taken a vow of poverty, chastity, and obedience (1). A person who chooses this lifestyle is usually addressed as brother so and so (e.g. Hello Brother Thomas). However, sometimes brother is used in a general sense to describe a male with whom one shares the Christian faith. In this case, brothers refers to the relationship of male believers with God as father.

Second, brother can be used to refer to our connection to each other as humans. We call our fellow males brothers to indicate that we are all united, brother and sister, in the human race. Brother is typically used in this sense by idealists. In this way, calling each other brother emphasizes our connectedness. The song “ Brother Can You Spare A Dime?” and “He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother“ are good examples of this usage.

Finally, brother is a slang term used among the African-American community. The facts show that black people will call males in that race their brother to emphasize the solidarity they share as blacks, especially black men. The term brother was more widely used in the 70s and 80s, but can be used today in this context too.

Another brother is worth mentioning: the friend who is like a brother. This is sometimes called a brother from another mother, which implies that the friend is so close that he might as well be a blood related brother. Many individuals have experiences of being let down by real brothers and sisters but finding a strong family like relationship with good friends from school or the neighborhood.

Throughout history, there have been many famous brothers. In the Bible, Cain and Abel and Jacob and Esau are prominent examples. The legendary founders of Rome, Romulus and Remus, were twin brothers. In the middle ages King John and Richard the Lionhearted were brothers. Modern day famous brothers include the Marx brothers, politicians George and Jeb Bush, and actors Luke, Owen, and Andrew Wilson.

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A person can have a gay dad in several ways. In many cases, the gay dad pretended to be straight for many years and even married. Many older men did this because homosexuality was socially unacceptable in the past. Sometimes, a gay dad will use a surrogate mother to have children. In other cases, gay dads adopt children in states where this is legal.

In the United States, there is strong opposition to gay parenting among certain segments of the population, especially religious conservatives and other traditionalist people. Liberals and libertarians typically support or take no position on gay dads. Several states have legalized gay adoption. Of course, in cases where a gay dad has a child with a woman, he has the same rights as a straight man.

If you do have a gay dad don’t be ashamed. Lots of people grow up with a gay dad. I know several men and women who have gay dads. In some cases, they thought their gay dad was straight for many years. It wasn’t easy for them to accept him, but in the end, they did. Here are a few of the tips I gave them to deal with the stress and to learn to accept their gay dads.

First, realize that your gay dad did not become gay because of you. Most likely your dad was attracted to men while he was with your mom. Your gay dad was living with feelings he thought he could control and he probably felt very guilty. Imagine living your life like your gay dad. It had to be tough. So, when he came out of the closet, it was probably a huge relief for him. It wasn’t about hurting you or your mother.

Second, your gay dad may identify a little differently, but he’s still the same dad you’ve always known. Thus, your gay dad is the same man who showed you love growing up, taught you how to ride a bike, etc. Just because your dad is gay doesn’t mean any of that is fake or a lie. Your gay dad still loves you a lot as a parent.

Finally, resist the urge to pry about the private life of your gay dad. You may be personally bothered by homosexual behavior, but don’t let it affect your relationship with your father. You wouldn’t want your gay dad prying into your sex life, so give him the same courtesy. Don’t think about what your gay dad is doing or dwell on his boyfriends. Treat your gay dad like you would any other father.

I hope these tips will help you deal with your gay dads. Remember, a lot of people don’t have a father in their lives at all and would take  a gay dad over no dad any day. So, tell your dad how much you appreciate him today.

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Today, anywhere from four to six million children are being raised by a gay parent in some capacity. However, these statistics do not specifically include kids raised by a lesbian mom. On the other hand, roughly 65,000 adopted children are being raised by gay couples, representing four percent of all adoptions. The exact facts are unknown, but it’s probable that lesbian moms account for most of these couples.

The are several ways that a lesbian becomes a mom. The first is having a child with a man. This can be done in marriage, before she comes out of the closet, or with a man for the purpose of having a child. The second way to become a lesbian mom is to use artificial insemination, like a through a sperm bank or donor. Finally, many lesbian moms have their kids through adoption where such adoptions are legal.

Before I discuss tips for handling the issue of a lesbian mom with sensitivity, I want to discuss the debate about lesbian moms. There are three basic views. The first view says that a lesbian mom as a parent is immoral since marriage and parenting are only for a straight couple. This is held by conservatives, especially religious individuals. The second view is that lesbian moms should be celebrated and embraced. This is the liberal view.

The final opinion is that whatever a person may feel about a lesbian mom, the issue is not one that should involve government or moral interference. In other words, even if someone doesn’t like it, lesbian moms have a right to their choices. This is the libertarian position.

If you meet someone with a lesbian mom, the first thing to remember is not to judge them. Even if you disagree with lesbian moms, remember that you show respect every day to people you disagree with. Will the kids of lesbian moms have problems? Sure! But think of the problems you have in your family or you caused for your family. Someone with a lesbian mom may have different problems, but probably no greater than yours.

In addition, remember that the children of a lesbian mom are already subject to harassment for being different. Since so few children have a lesbian mom, bullies often single out their children for abuse. As an adult, you should not pile on the kids with lesbian moms. Be mature and remember that whatever you may feel about their parents, no child, even one with a lesbian mom, deserves to be bullied or harassed.

Finally, you should reach out to the lesbian moms in your community. You’ll probably find that they are nice people with the same joys and struggles as you. You may even make friends with a lesbian mom. You can learn from them and they can learn from you.

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I have sorted these romantic SMS messages by “for dudes” and “for chicks” so you can use them properly. These are short and sweet, and aren’t too sweet and nauseatingly romantic, but you don’t want to freak anybody out by creepy messages anyway right? Dudes and girls don’t respond to romantic messages in the same way, so it is absolutely essential that you not transmit the wrong type of romantic sms. However, I also want to provide you with a few inside secrets for writing and choosing an effective romantic sms, because I believe that unique romantic messages are far more appealing than sample ones. Below you will find a snippet from our collection. Feel free to use these, but please go down to learn how to craft your own romantic sms messages.

For dudes to chicks
ur great, ur one of my fave girlfriends
i’m busy, will txt u later, k?
ur lucky baby, since ur with me
ur pretty kickin 4 a girl
u r hotter a chili pepper in a volcano
it was sweet 4 u 2 meet me
u look hott today…better take ur clothes off

For chicks to dudes
u rock my world dude
i i have a surprise 4 u tonite
ur the man of my dreams
u look hott today

These are just some samples. You will want to learn how to write your own romantic messages. Below I explain how to do it, divided based on your sex.u
Dudes
You must be confident, accomplished, and funny when you write a romantic sms. It is okay to show your affection to a degree, but do not be all mushy, needy, and overly romantic. Don’t send a bunch of love poems. That is something a girl would do, which is fine, if you are a girl. Yes, girls claim to want a guy that is extra “nice” and romantic, but they really do not, and you know this fact. Women love confident and slightly cocky guys, period. Part of the way you show your confidence is by not caring too much, and if you gush over them, you care too much dude!

I can tell you, that if you aren’t confident, your chances of meeting, and keeping, a girlfriend or date are slim. If you obey her every order and command, and send her a sms to this effect, you might as well start preparing for the end of the relationship.  The romantic messages above are funny, confident, and basically show that you don’t give a crap, which is exactly what you want. The romantic sms about being busy is very important. Do not text her back immediately, and don’t appear that  you are sitting around waiting for her. Make her wait for a little while. If you are an excellent dude, you have important things to do besides getting back right away, correct? Trust me dude, if you demonstrate to her that you can take or leave her, she will crave your love even more. Again, nobody likes a needy fella. Don’t believe me? Look at the guys women go after. Are they needy, effeminate beta males? No way.

For Chicks
I hope the phrase “chicks” isn’t offensive, since most of my best girl friends call themselves that. At any rate, ladies, it’s ok to get gushy over a guy a little bit, yes a little bit. He will definitely appreciate it. However, don’t be too odd or act like a stalker. Guys like some space. In fact, they need a basic amount of space, or else they will leave you, because most guys are afraid of commitment. You will go from top on their list to “the psycho b*tch” they talk to their friends about if they think you are squeezing them too much. You want your sms  messages to be romantic, but not crazy. Don’t text things like “u r mine forever and eternally” or “we are everlasting soul mates,” or “look out your window; can u see me?” or something like these. They will scare guys off quickly. I know dudes intimately, and I can tell you, they have a word for females like this: psycho. Also, don’t send him romantic messages every minute, on the minute, or send him thousands a day. Just be cool and collected about it. Guys like and want your attention, but you can be too much of a good thing. Like I said, it is ok to send a romantic sms, but don’t be crazy!

See, writing your own romantic sms messages is easy!

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Blended families aren’t easy. They have such a difficult reputation that when I was ready to marry a single mother, everyone warned me about the pitfalls of a blended family. A few friends said blended families were impossible. Some other friends said they were indeed doable, but difficult. However, nobody said making blended families work was easy!

After years of experience in blended families, I must agree with people who think blended families are hard, but possible. What follows is my advice on step families and how to make them work for you.

1. Both Adults In the Blended Family Must Agree To the Rules

It’s important for both adults to set the ground rules at the start. Blended families are always easier when the adults are on the same page. The couple involved in the blended families must agree to a list of dos and donts, especially when it comes to the children and their discipline.

In my blended family, my wife and I were never on the same page at the beginning and it was awful. Her child knew that she could always undo my decisions if she went to her mother. After months of strife, we sat down and made a list of rules that we both agreed to follow. It made our blended family much less stressful.

2. The Parents Must Decide on Discipline Duties

The natural parent and the step parent may decide to share discipline duties. This method can work with blended families and is common. However, the step-parent in the blended families needs to realize that discipline will be hard in the start, since the child is used to the style of the natural parent. However, whatever decision, the step-child must, at the very least, respect the step-parent.

It’s important to discuss this with the step-child in advance so that there’s no surprises. Sit him or her down and explain how you are both in charge of the household now and it’s important to respect and abide by the decisions of both parents. Blended families work best when the parents and children are united in discipline decisions.

3. Always Bring the Step-Child Into the Conversation

The son or daughter may not be on board with the new blended family. Maybe the stepson or stepdaughter will see the step-parent as an intruder or regard the blended family members as imposters, replacing the role of the natural, non-custodial parent. The child may also resent his or her step brother and step sister. The natural parent must remind the child to at least be respectful and open minded to his new family. The natural parent must model this behavior as well.

If the step-child is resistant to blended families, sometimes love and patience are all it takes. If the step-child doesn’t get on board, it may be time to get professional help.

4. Keep Up With Custody Issues

Divorce and custody issues could impact blended families. If another parent is in the mix, he or she may try to create problems in the new blended family. It may become necessary to talk to the natural parent, especially if he or she is poisoning the child and harming the success of the blended families. If the situation gets uncontrollable a court appointed arbitrator may be required to protect the blended families.

I hope you found my advice on blended families helpful. I’ve been in a blended family for over four years. Although it’s been tough, we’ve endured and made it work. If you have advice for blended families, please share your experience in the comments.